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Let’s water the flowers

Sometimes people just need to hear a kind word. The world is full of hate and unrest. It’s hard to find kindness or even courtesy. Let’s give people more of what we want.

I have always wanted to be loved and well liked. How can the universe give me something that I’m not willing to give others? My grandma used to say “ If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” I’m taking that to heart this year.

I make it my intention every day to say something nice to anyone I meet. Even if it’s just a warm hello or good morning. I say it with a smile and a little enthusiasm. People love to be greeted.

I’ve also made it an intention to encourage people I see struggling. Everyone needs encouragement. Not everyone has a strong support system at home. Your kind words may be the only and last kind words that they ever hear.

Life is so short. We must help each other on this journey. We must band together and climb up this mountain called life. Please find it in your heart to be kind and encourage someone today. It will make you feel just as good as them. It’s a great cure for the blues.

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
― Maya Angelou

Finally making a planner decision

So lately I’ve been debating about whether or not I wanted to switch out my planner. I have been using the Clever Fox planner for a few months. While I like this planner, I do miss my ring planner.

I finally decided that I would love to finish up the rest of the year in my ring bound planner. I’m proud of myself for giving the Clever Fox 🦊 planner a try for as long as I have. I really did stick with it for a while.

I really miss being able to reset my planner when I felt like I was in a rut or bored with the layout.

I’m back in my half letter, disc bound planner. I have customized this planner with Cloth & Paper and Notiq inserts. I love my half letter planner. It make’s me happy.

I have always used a planner every since junior high school. It’s a habit that I am glad I adopted earlier in life. It has helped me to accomplish my goals and keep my life in order.

If you feel like you’re having trouble getting things done try a planner or planning system. You can even use a plain notebook to make your daily schedule, routines, and to do’s. I even track my health in my planner. Mental, physical and emotional health.

You don’t have to just make plans in a planner. Tracking your health, finances, family, pets, hobbies etc. is also great to write down in your planner.

My planner contains my whole life including my journal and my bible study. I also track and write about the books I have read.

I hope that this post helps someone who needs a little help getting things done or getting organized. If you would like more information on planning or planners leave it in the comments. I would also love to know what you all are using and how you like it.

The anxiety seeds of a pandemic

I used to love working and going places. Now I can’t even get out of my bed to go to work without some sort of anxiety attack. I’m trying my hardest to get back to normal but I just can’t seem to get in line. My life is forever changed. I wasn’t an introvert. The pandemic made me one. I used to have plenty of friends and vast social circles.

Now, I barely want to go to the grocery store or go in at a gas station. If I can be serviced at my car or have things delivered to my house, I’m satisfied.

I never thought this would change me but it has. I’m not the same person I used to be. I never did large crowds. Now I can’t even do large crowds online. The sight of a large group makes me cringe.

I would love nothing more than for things to go back to normal. It still won’t change the fact that I can’t get back to normal.

Clever Fox planner review

I have been using this planner for three months now and I can’t begin to tell you how it has changed me and the way I achieve goals.

I had been looking for a new planner in January. After failing to keep up with any other planner that I own, I decided to give this one a try. I had never been a bullet journal person so I really had to do some research on this brand and it’s tool.

The book itself is absolutely gorgeous. I picked the Mystic Blue color. It came beautifully packed in a gift box, along with a few sheets of stickers. Needless to say, I have already ordered more. I love having simple decorations in my planner.

This planner begins with a little shadow work prompts to help you figure out your mission and purpose. This gives your plans and goals clear intent. It also gives you prompts for gratitude and affirmation.

I love the way this planner is setup. I have the weekly version but there are so many different types to choose from. I’m sure you can find one to suit your needs. I also have one in a binder style. Both are A5 size. That’s the size that works best for me. They can fit into any of my bags.

The best planner system I have ever used. I love the book style as well as the binder style. The only con is that you can’t buy refills for the binder style. I think they are phasing that style out. I also love the paper quality and the sturdy feeling.

This planner allows you to have a real plan and helps you stick to your goals. I love the layout and all of the prompts. I hadn’t thought about it but I’m glad I have some clarity. I’ve also become more focused and intentional.

The best part of all was the affordable price. I didn’t spend an arm and a leg to get everything I needed in a planner. Your year is going to be awesome no matter what planner system you choose but please give this one a try.

January Makeup and Skincare Favorites 2022

Photo Courtesy of Charlotte Tilbury.com

I have been rotating a few foundations every month and the one I stuck to for the month of January was the Charlotte Tilbury Flawless Finish foundation. It gave me medium to full coverage, which I love. It wore beautifully throughout the day and I didn’t have to touch up very much.

Photo Courtesy of Catrice .com

The concealer that has stolen my heart is the Catrice True Skin high coverage concealer. This one was a real hidden gem at the drugstore. I was pleasantly surprised. It’s light and full coverage, and blends like a dream. It wears for a long time, and I don’t notice any creasing. This concealer also works great with my favorite setting powder.

Photo Courtesy of Laura Mercier.com

My favorite setting powder has been the Laura Mercier loose setting powder in the new Translucent Honey. This is the greatest thing that Laura Mercier could have done with her iconic, translucent loose setting powder. This is my perfect setting powder. It’s the same cult favorite with a little hint of color.

I don’t have a new pressed powder because I am currently on a no buy/ low buy. I’ll have an update on that at the end of the quarter. I’m currently working through two MAC mineralized skin finishes and a Studio Fix powder.

Photo Courtesy of Natasha Denona.com

My favorite blush, highlight and eyeshadows are all in one palette. The Natasha Denona glam face palette. I’m currently working on finishing that palette and I will have an update on how that is going and how long it’s going to take. The Natasha Denona glam face palette is so beautiful and not just the outer packaging but the products inside are just gorgeous. Just add liner and mascara and you’re good to go. I like to just tight line for day and winged liner for night. This palette is a true staple for the simple makeup lover.

Photo Courtesy of Charlotte Tilbury.com

Finally, to finish off the complexion, Charlotte Tilbury Airbrush bronzer. This bronzer is exactly as it says. It gives an airbrushed bronze to my skin like no other. If I want a subtle contour, I apply with a tight brush. If I want a bronze, I use a fluffy fanned out brush. Either way, the bronzer is gorgeous. I got the deep shade, and I am an NC50 in MAC and it is perfection.

Photo Courtesy of Charlotte Tilbury.com

I have a kit that is my skincare favorite, and I am so glad I brought this into my Routine. It is the Charlotte Tilbury Magic skin Icons. This kit is a supercharged quartet of proucts that gives you supermodel skin. After using this kit in the trial size for a month, I had to get the full sizes.

Discover the results observed in a user study for Charlotte’s Magic Cream moisturizer: Charlotte’s Magic Cream is infused with supercharged skincare ingredients!

  • 100% agree that WRINKLES appear REDUCED!
  • 100% felt their skin was instantly MOISTURISED
  • 100% agree dull skin was instantly TRANSFORMED

Charlotte’s Magic Serum Crystal Elixir: 

Discover the results observed in a user trial for Charlotte’s Magic Serum Crystal Elixir

  • 93% AGREE SKIN LOOKS YOUNGER!
  • 97% agree skin feels INTENSELY HYDRATED!
  • 94% agree skin looks and feels FIRMER!

Magic Night Cream: 

RESULTS OBSERVED IN A USER STUDY:

  • 100% agree skin looks and feels SMOOTHER
  • 96% agree skin looks and feels PLUMPER

Magic Eye Rescue:

RESULTS OBSERVED IN A CLINICAL STUDY:

  • 100% agree DARK CIRCLES are significantly BRIGHTENED
  • 100% agree skin looks and feels SMOOTHER
  • 100% agree skin looks and feels FIRMER

Magic Lip Oil Crystal Elixir: 

Discover the clinically proven results of Charlotte’s Magic Lip Oil Crystal Elixir.

  • Lip volume appears boosted by up to 70% in 28 days
  • MOISTURISES for up to 24 HOURS***
  • BOOSTS HYDRATION by up to 157% in 1 hour!***
  • Visibly REDUCES the appearance of LIP LINES by up to 20%

This kit is amazing and actually does what the clinical trial says it does. You get these awesome results from a company that really stands behind their products. A true “Supermodel” skin brand. Charlotte has magic elves working in her lab. I swear they are really putting pixie dust or something in these products to make them so amazing. You really do get what you pay for.

Well, that’s all of my makeup and skincare favorites. I’m going to give an update on my low buy in a future.

Natasha Denona Glam Face Palette review

I have had this palette for a few weeks now. I have been reaching for it every time I do my makeup. I like the convenience of having everything in one place. The only thing I have to add is bronzer and my complexion products.

It was a hard decision to get this one. I had to step back and examine my makeup collection and see where this palette would fit in. I am not regretting my purchase in the least. I don’t have any other Natasha Denona products, and this was a great starter palette for me. I find that this palette gives me a basic day to night look without worry.

I love that Natasha Denona as well as other brands are becoming more consumer conscious. As a consumer I want products that make my life easier. I don’t want to have to figure it out. That has been achieved with this palette. I’m not a beginner but I appreciate the simplicity. I can also experiment and come up with a very cohesive look that didn’t take too much time or effort.

Photo Courtesy of: https://www.natashadenona.com

The palette comes in two versions, light and dark. I thought it was about skin tone, but it’s really about whether you want a soft or rich eye look. I now wish that I had gotten both. I have the dark palette and the colors are so rich and berry toned. In

This palette has two cream products and five eyeshadows that are named by placement rather than color. This is great for beginners and those of us who suffer with decision fatigue. This palette is excellent to grab and go if you are pressed for time in the mornings. I am a wife and mother of two. I don’t have a lot of time to get ready in the morning and instead of looking for makeup items that will work together, I just put on foundation, concealer, bronzer and this palette. I’m ready to roll in about ten minutes.

This palette is for the person who needs to get ready quickly. It is beginner friendly and easily giftable. If you are looking for a palette that will be easy to use and get you out of the door quickly, this is the one for you.

Manipulation

My topic for this week, if ya’ll have paid attention to my posts on Facebook, was manipulation. The reason why I was doing manipulation was because I felt like I was being manipulated myself. Manipulation comes in a lot of different forms you know. It’s more than people just using you but it’s people using you for their own gain. For what it is that they need done. For whatever it is that tickles their fancy. That’s the manipulation that I’m talking about.

So the number one way that you can know that you’re being manipulated is if someone is transcribing someone else’s feeling to you that means a lot to you and it causes you to change your behavior, you’re being manipulated. If someone makes a situation happen that causes you to act a certain way, you’re being manipulated. If someone has a reaction to you or something that you do in order to shift your energy, you’re being manipulated.

I’m saying all these things to say this, you don’t ever let anybody have the key to your energy, to your mind. You should not let anybody shift what is going on inside of you. If you feel like a million then you should always feel like a million regardless of how it makes the person standing next to you feel. I’ve done this a lot in my life. I will take down my shine to make other people in the room comfortable. I’m sorry that you are uncomfortable with my shine but, this is my shine. Maybe you need to turn your light up a little bit. Maybe you need to fine-tune your kilowatts. I am no longer going to turn down my shine to make you feel comfortable because what happens is you are basically negating yourself for the benefit and the comfort of someone else. If somebody feels some type of way about your shine that means that standing next to you they feel inferior and that’s their problem not yours.

It’s not your fault that they feel inferior, that they feel less than, because they’re standing next to you and your light is shining so bright. Don’t dumb down yourself for nobody and don’t let anybody have the key to your energy, to your spirit, to your shine. There shouldn’t even be a switch accessible for the outside world to even turn down your shine, even turn down your energy, to even turn down your glow. That shouldn’t ever happen.

You got people walking around from day to day really dumbing down their shine for the comfort of someone else. Listen, if your friends feel some type of way about your shine, they ain’t your friends, because your real friends gonna push you up to shine brighter. They’re gonna push you up to do better. I hate to have to go so far back but, this is about how far back as I can go. In high school I had friends, real friends, and and they know who they are because we still rock till this day but I had real friends that used to get on my ass and be like “dude what’s wrong with you? why are you looking like this? why your clothes wrinkle? what the [ %#@ ] is wrong with you? can you get your [ $#@! ] together? oh uh uh, you can’t sit with us looking like that.” I needed all of that. Why? Because I was dumbing myself down to fit into something that I didn’t even belong to.

See, that’s the thing, when God give you a shine, that’s your shine, and most of the time, when he gives you a shine, that shine is just for you. You can’t take nobody with you. You can’t share it. You damn sure can’t give people access to it.

You know what happens when people find fire, they want to put it out it’s just a natural instinct to put out a fire. So if you got the fire, I guarantee if you let people see it, they gonna want to put it out. Folks are afraid of fire. Fire burns, fire destroys, and most of the time the only thing you burning and destroying is their lack of self-confidence and self-esteem.

You all know what happens when you get too close to fire. Nobody wants to be next to anything hotter than them. Nobody wants to stand next to a chick that’s hotter than them. They don’t want to be affiliated with nobody who’s faster than them or stronger than them. Don’t dump down your shine for them. They have the same opportunity as you. They can level up just like you. What’s wrong with a lot of ya’ll is that ya’ll are putting your level up on hold because it’s gonna make your friends uncomfortable. Your level up is about you. If your friend’s are uncomfortable, that’s on them

They got the same access to the same internet as you do. So, if that makes them feel uncomfortable, then too damn bad. Level up anyway. Do you anyway. You cannot put your shine on hold. You cannot put yourself on hold for the comfort of other folks. You can’t let people manipulate you into thinking that if you do this, that, and the third, if you come down from level one to level 10, that that’s going to make your relationship better. It does not because they’re already disrespecting you by demanding that you turn it down.

I hope this is helping somebody.

If you spend your whole life trying to make other folks comfortable, you will never take the time to make you comfortable. You’ll never take the time to make you happy. What makes you happy, what makes you feel good, is the only thing that matters. I used to be that person that was like “oh let me tone it down, let me bring it down, not any more. I’ll turn it all the way up every everywhere I go. Manipulation is only someone else’s way of turning down your shine, of turning down your energy. People who have more than you will be jealous of you. They will be jealous of you because of your shine and they will manipulate their way into your energy to turn it down for the comfort of themselves. Don’t let it happen.

The worst thing that you ever do is turn down your shine to comfort somebody else. If you let them do that that time then they’ll keep going and going and going and going and going and then after a while you find yourself on puppet string. Be aware of it and know when it’s happening to you so you can prevent the side effect of it.

You have to be strong. You have to be mentally strong, and you have to be emotionally mature. When you mature emotionally, there are a lot of things that you will let go of. You aren’t easily pushed or moved by other people’s actions. You will respond instead of react. I hope this post helped someone.

Rediscovering Myself

During the now almost two years we have been going through this pandemic, I have been dealing with a lot of shadow work and mental health issues of my own. Shadow work is an introspective psychological practice that anyone can do and can lead to a more fulfilling life. When working with the shadow, you may have moments of awakening that lead to greater authenticity, creativity, and emotional freedom.

Doing the inside work necessary for my own self improvement gave me the direction and clarity I needed to make real lasting change. I have been able to rearrange my habits and schedule to better suit my needs. I have regained my confidence and even became more punctual. Which, has been a weakness of mine for many years.

I’ve had time to reflect on who I am and what I believe in. I found myself editing my wardrobe and changing my hair to suit my needs, which, before the pandemic, were not being met by me very well.

Because of the pandemic, I was able to focus on myself and take better care of my needs and the needs of my family. I didn’t know what any of the shadow work was until I started my femininity journey. I felt like I had lost touch with my femininity and I went on a video hunt on YouTube to find out how to activate my feminine energy.

What I found was a treasure trove of insight and advice that literally changed my life. I rarely give any recommendation’s about YouTube because everyone’s taste is different, but if you are trying to activate or re-activate your feminine energy I would definitely go to YouTube and type it in and give some of these awesome content creators some love.